25 Aug Essential Life Skills to Kick–Start your Daughter’s Success Journey
The moment we realise the potential women have in influencing the world and making positive impacts in people’s lives and in societies, we then immediately value them more and hold them on a higher pedestal than they have been for generations. Gone are the days when a woman’s role was limited to what society perceived or expected it to be. Women today are recognized to be at the forefront of creating positive contributions in society through various different channels, whether it is through raising a family, managing multinational corporations, or through being a social activist – and yes – that also includes us Muslim women!
Navigating our way for survival in this fast-paced, ever so changing world is crazy enough let alone navigating our way for success. And success for a Muslim woman is a big deal because her success is not just confined to this world, but extends to the success of her Hereafter as well. Hence, it is inevitable that if she is programed to live for success in both worlds from a very young age and is given the support she requires during her core developmental phases of her life, she will win. And her win is your win in this life and the next. What more could a parent want!
Here are some essential life-skills your daughters will need to kick-start their success journey and cultivate the leader within them.
The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page.
Not only is the first commandment by Allah for all Muslims (yes, men AND women) to ‘read’, it is specifically emphasised to read and study the creation of Allah.
It so important for girls to frequently step out of their virtual world and take a hike. Literally! A well–travelled person will always have a fresh perspective on life, they will see things differently, value the things they have been blessed with, and have a more richer personality than the one who spends all their time in front of the T.V or on their not-so-smart, phone.
So go out there and allow her to explore the world – start with mini weekend getaways away from the hustle and bustle of the city and take that time off to breathe, relax, and spiritually uplift your soul. It’ll be good for yourself and for your daughter too.
It is not happy people who are thankful, it is thankful people who are happy.
Gratitude truly is the key to success. There is nothing more than gratitude that will get your daughters through the tough times (besides prayer of course!).
Teach her to be grateful for everything in life– no matter how small or insignificant that thing may appear to be. Also, teach her to thank the people around her. Nobody reaches success on their own; they succeed with combined efforts from the support of their colleagues, friends, and family. And the more thankful a person is, the more they will succeed. More importantly, Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said that whoever does not thank the people, does not thank Allah. So teach her to simply say thanks – it’ll go a long way!
Do it with passion or not at all…
Lack of support from parents in helping children pursue their passions is instrumental to a gradual decline in personal confidence, purpose, excitement, and vision: the essentials for success.
One of the best ways to keep her on the path to success is to encourage her passion/s. Be it in the form of an art or sport, the activities that your daughter is passionate about will help her build her self-esteem and confidence. She will use her time more productively by challenging herself and exploring her creative talent through the things that she loves and enjoys the most.
And as Rachel Simmons states in her book Odd Girl Out, “Full engagement with an activity she loves will give her the opportunity to master challenges, which will boost her self-esteem and resilience and affirm intrinsic values…”
So go out there and sign her up to a creative class or a sport. Education for success comes in many forms– not just through textbooks.
You are imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed. And you are beautiful.
One of the greatest hindrances to your daughter’s success is her not feeling good enough about herself, especially about her physical appearance.
There are so many pressures for girls in general to look a certain way and these pressures increase even more if you are of an ‘ethnic’ or a Muslim background. It’s tough out there and your daughters will need to have it in them to break through the societal pressures and barriers if she wants to pave a way for herself.
Don’t fall into the common trap of accepting the beauty standards others have set for us. Your daughter’s self-worth will not be measured by someone else’s perception of what is beautiful and what isn’t. Your daughter is worth much more.
Remind her that beauty comes from within and that Allah does not look at our shapes and forms but He looks at our hearts. Complement her on her personal values, talents, skills and personality traits, not just on her outer appearance. Shift the focus from outer beauty to inner beauty. Then watch her flourish into the confident girl she has the potential to be!
PS. We will be running a creative workshop addressing this issue in the coming weeks. If you would like your daughter to attend, please register your interest via the Contact form. Do note that there are limited spots available and you will be notified in case there are no more spots remaining with an alternate option, Insha’Allah! 🙂
Empowered women empower women.
You can truly tell when a woman is successful and confident in herself, and when she is not. The successful woman helps other women up and encourages them to also succeed. On the other hand, the unsuccessful woman will exude all her energies into tearing other women down, being cunning towards them, gossip about them, and fight with them. These show nothing but traits of someone who is weak and insecure about themselves and their position and status.
If you notice any subtle and snide comments thrown around carelessly between girls, call them out immediately on it. When it becomes acceptable for girls to fight each other and unhealthily compete with one another, that attitude and environment does more harm than good to the girls, and the society as well.
Teaching girls to work collaboratively with other girls from a young age will nurture the notion of true empowerment and success. Encourage her to join organisations that focus on team-building activities with other girls. If she has sisters, especially encourage them to also work together and interact with each other with mutual love and respect. It’s all about #GirlLove in 2016!
I hope this article was beneficial and shed some light on things we normally don’t focus on. Please share this with your friends and with other parents who also want their daughters to be tomorrow’s leaders. Also, comment below what you think other key essentials for success from your own personal experiences are. We love to hear from different people with their unique backgrounds and experiences!